By: Joyce Willis, MC, LPC
The Model of Developmental Immaturity can be traced back to its creator, Pia Mellody. In the 1970s, while working at The Meadows, she was encountering an increasing number of patients who identified less-than-nurturing or abusive family systems in their childhood — leading to adulthood behaviors of codependency. Those codependency patterns translated into addictions, mood disorders, and physical illness. Mellody’s continued work with patients led to the conclusion that people with codependence wind up in despair and actually die from the effects of codependence. Thus, the model was developed to help patients understand the “family of origin” issues that have contributed to the symptoms of their addictions, mood disorders, and relationship struggles.
The Model of Developmental Immaturity is incorporated into every facet of treatment at Meadows Behavioral Healthcare, from week-long workshops to our intensive inpatient programs. At each level, patients receive education on the Meadows Model and learn how to identify the childhood roots of their adult behaviors. Therapists at The Meadows lead patients through understanding how their core issues, secondary symptoms and relational problems were set up in childhood, leading to codependence in adulthood. The biggest understanding that we want patients to leave treatment with is the belief in the Nature of the Child — which is the Nature of the Functional Adult — that we are inherently valuable and perfectly imperfect. We will further explore the Meadows Model in stages, beginning with understanding the primary symptoms of codependency and understanding The Nature of the Child.
Codependency is defined as a disorder of immaturity caused by relational problems.
The Model of Developmental Immaturity is a model that has to do with codependency, which is defined as a disorder of immaturity caused by relational problems. Understanding codependency is imperative to understanding the Meadows Model.
The five primary symptoms of codependency are:
1. We have trouble esteeming ourselves from the idea of inherent worth.
2. We have trouble protecting and nurturing ourselves.
3. We have trouble being real.
4. We have trouble attending to our needs and wants.
5. We have trouble living life with an attitude of moderation in all things.
Childhood trauma and developmental immaturity can lead to addiction issues, mood disorders, and physical issues.
The Model of Developmental Immaturity Issues is a model used at The Meadows to treat the effects of childhood trauma and issues of developmental immaturity. Childhood trauma and developmental immaturity can lead to addiction issues, mood disorders and physical issues.
To further understand the Meadows Model, we will examine each column, starting with the Nature of the Child (the Precious Child Ego State.)
Our precious child is the reality of who we are:
- We are precious and valuable just as we are.
- We are vulnerable and can expect protection.
- We are human and make mistakes. We are perfectly imperfect.
- We are dependent on others for our needs and wants.
- We are spontaneous and open.
As children, we get relationally traumatized by enmeshment, neglect, or abandonment in the “Nature of the Child” areas. Let’s explore each of these terms:
- Enmeshment is the inappropriate closeness of family members. In an enmeshed and over-involved relationship, individuals get lost in the relationship. There is a lack of clear boundaries, thus each individual has difficulty having a clear sense of self. Examples of phrases that demonstrate enmeshment are, “You’re my everything,” “Without you, my life would not be worth living,” or “You complete me.”
- Neglect happens when a child’s basic dependency needs were not met. Dependency needs are our basic needs for food, clothing, shelter, safety and medical attention. Either the parent did not know how to meet these needs or the parent did not meet these needs well enough. Neglect in childhood may lead to depression, anxiety, eating disorders, anger issues, or alcohol and drug abuse in adulthood.
- Abandonment happens when the loss of one both parents occurs physically or emotionally. If the parent was not present in the child’s life or the parent withheld affection or nurturing, the child was abandoned. Abandonment in childhood can result in adulthood difficulties with expressing and managing emotions, trust issues or a need to be in control.
Any behavior exacted upon us as children that was less than nurturing is defined as trauma in this model. Childhood trauma causes immaturity in the Core Issues (Column II of the model).
We will examine the Core Issues in Part II of “Breaking Down the Model.“
Joyce Willis is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is currently a therapist at The Meadows Outpatient Center-Scottsdale. She earned her bachelor’s degree in education from the University of Akron. After teaching for several years, Joyce earned a master’s in counseling from the University of Phoenix. She has been in the counseling profession since 1996 and in that time has worked extensively in the addictions field. Her specialties include treatment for addictions, bereavement, trauma, depression, and anxiety. Joyce has a special interest in mindfulness and helping people connect their emotional, spiritual, mindful, and physiological selves with compassion and respect.