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The Meadows Alumni Association is pleased to host an alumni workshop in Dallas, Texas, for alumni on July 9, 2013, from 7:00 to 8:30 p.m. by Cole Adams, LCSW, CSAT, will lead the discussion on "Perfectly Imperfect." It will be held at Preston Place at 12700 Preston Road, #140.

Adams is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker and a certified sexual addiction therapist. He received training from Patrick Carnes, considered the foremost leader in sexual addiction, and Pia Mellody, one of the preeminent authorities in the fields of addiction and relationships, and a Senior Fellow and senior clinical adviser for The Meadows Wickenburg. Currently, he is the owner of Bluffview Counseling in Dallas, Texas.

To register and learn more, visit http://www.regonline.com/builder/site/Default.aspx?EventID=1102470. For more information, contact Morgan Day at 800.240.5522 or alumni@themeadows.com.

The Meadows Alumni Association is pleased to host monthly alumni meetings in Texas and Arizona. Meadows' trained professionals lead these inspirational meetings and focus on topics including renewing the language of The Meadows Model and reclaiming commitment to its principles. The Meadows Model is a therapeutic model that comprehensively addresses trauma resolution.

The Meadows is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows' work with trauma and addiction contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 Sub-Acute Agency that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

Earl 'Doug' Dodge beloved clinician, co-worker, mentor, and teacher passed the morning of Friday, July 5, after battling with an illness for several months. Doug was a significant part of The Meadows clinical team for over two decades. He worked in many areas of our program and touched many, many lives - patients, peers, and professionals. He was a wise teacher, inspirational mentor, and loving friend to all. Doug's gifts and passion for recovery, family, and grief healing was extraordinary. Our Meadows family is grieving a tremendous loss and will have a hole in our hearts difficult to fill. "God grant us the serenity..."

~~ For The Meadows, Nancy Bailey, PhD, The Meadows' Clinical Director

The Memorial Service for Earl "Doug" Dodge will be Thursday, July 11, 2013 at 3:30PM. It will be in the meeting room at the Elks Lodge, 122 N. Frontier St, Wickenburg, AZ 85390. David's Desert Chapel is handling arrangements for the service. Please call 928-684-0710 if you have questions. Donations may be made to The Cancer Society in Doug's name if you would like to do so in lieu of flowers.

Nancy Bailey, PhD, Clinical Director for The Meadows trauma and addiction treatment center will present at the South Florida Society for Trauma-Based Disorders Healing the Healers Annual Luncheon on Friday, July 12, 2013, from 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. in Boca Raton, Fla. at the Maggiano's located at 21090 St. Andrews Boulevard.

Dr. Bailey's presentation titled "The Six Questions: Simple to Complex and Back," will focus on recovery and relapse concerns of mothers in various stages of recovery from trauma and addictions. The workshop will identify barriers to recovery focusing on guilt and shame and safely moving through solutions to self-realization of worthiness as a recovering woman.

Dr. Bailey holds certifications as an addictions counselor, co-occurring disorders diplomat and experiential therapist. She is also a certified EAGALA (equine) therapist. Having worked in the field of behavioral health since 1994, Dr. Bailey's research and professional interests have focused on women's recovery issues with special attention to eating disorders and trauma using experiential treatment modalities including psychodrama. Dr. Bailey completed her PhD at Capella University in 2012 and her Masters and undergraduate degrees at Eastern University, St. David's, Pa.

For more information and to register for this workshop, contact Alison Johnston, LCSW, at alison_johnston@bellsouth.net or 954.830.3090.

The Meadows Wickenburg is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows' work with trauma and addiction contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 Sub-Acute Agency that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

Tuesday, 09 July 2013 20:00

The Recovery World Loses a Pioneer

David Briick, instrumental in opening five substance abuse and behavioral health treatment centers including The Meadows, Cottonwood Hill, Cottonwood de Tucson, Cottonwood de Albuquerque, and Cottonwood de Austin, died a few days short of his 81st birthday on Friday, June 7, 2013, at his daughter's home in Nunnelly, Tennessee.

With over 41 years of long-term recovery, David helped thousands to change their lives and heal from addiction. He remained active in the recovery community and spoke openly about his triumph over alcoholism until his death. He served as the Executive Director of the Councils' on Alcoholism in both Pinal and Pima Counties in Arizona.

In 1992, David began his battle with cancer and his public campaign through Arizona's Tobacco Free Ways, the American Heart Association, and the American Lung Association to educate school children and adults about the consequences of nicotine and substance abuse. Through numerous speaking engagements in and around the state of Arizona, he shared his story until the summer of 2012.

"David Briick was a pioneer in the development of alcoholism treatment centers back in the 70’s. He was originally the person who hired me to work at The Meadows and had a very positive influence in my life. He will be missed," said Pia Mellody, Senior Fellow and Senior Clinical Advisor at The Meadows.

A celebration of life will be held at the Arizona Inn, Tucson, Arizona, September 8, 2013, at 11:00 a.m. For more information, contact Cheryl Brown at cheryl.brown@live.com or 931-996-3747.

Wednesday, 10 July 2013 20:00

Practicing Gratitude Enhances Well-Being

By: Dr. Jan Anderson, Psy.D., LPCC

Studies show that the regular practice of gratitude can increase not just your well-being and happiness, but also improve your physical health and your relationships.

I was in the audience as Business First publisher Tom Monahan went one-on-one with Yum! Brands Inc. President and CEO David Novak to learn how a boy who lived in 32 trailer parks in 23 states by the time he reached seventh grade became the head of the world's largest restaurant company at age 47. As they discussed Novak's unique leadership style, his commitment to fighting hunger and his new book, "Taking People With You: The Only Way to Make BIG Things Happen," I noted in particular two things that Mr. Novak said.

"It's the soft stuff that drives the hard results."

In a similar vein, he offered two observations about why people leave a job: 1) They don't get along with their boss 2) They don't feel appreciated

Marriage researcher and relationship expert John Gottman says that what makes many marriages unhappy or end in divorce is not fighting or infidelity, but simply not feeling appreciated - being taken for granted. Gottman says that what really keeps real-life romance alive is each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.

HOW GRATITUDE CAN IMPROVE YOUR HEALTH, HAPPINESS AND RELATIONSHIPS

Gratitude – expressing thankfulness, gratefulness or appreciation - has become a mainstream focus of psychological research. Not surprisingly, studies show that the regular practice of gratitude can increase not just your well-being and happiness, but also improve your physical health and your relationships.

My favorite gratitude study involved three groups, each with a very different assignment. One group was instructed to focus each week on things they perceived as irritating, annoying or frustrating. The second group focused each week on things for which they were grateful. The control group focused on ordinary life events during the week.

The results found that the people who focused on gratitude were unmistakably happier - in just about all aspects of their lives. They reported fewer negative physical symptoms such as headaches or colds, and they spent almost an hour and a half more per week exercising than those who focused on negatives. Simply put, those who were grateful had a higher quality of life.

Most interesting is that others noticed that these people had more joy and more energy. As the study progressed, participants in the other two experimental groups could see that the grateful group was becoming more optimistic.

In a follow-up study, those who found something to appreciate every day were observed to be less materialistic, less depressive, envious and anxious, and much more likely to help others, a fact not lost on those around them. When others were asked their impressions of the daily-gratitude group, they generally judged them as empathic and helpful to others. This effect was not observed in either of the other two groups.

As research author Robert Emmons put it, "This is not just something that makes people happy, like a positive-thinking/optimism kind of thing. A feeling of gratitude really gets people to do something, to become more pro-social, more compassionate."

The bottom line: The study found that the participants who were consciously grateful felt better about their lives, were more optimistic, more enthusiastic, more determined, more interested, more joyful and more likely to have helped someone else.
Other studies show that these psycho-emotional benefits are accompanied by health benefits as well: more energy, more restful sleep, clearer thinking, better resilience during tough times, fewer illnesses and fewer stress-related conditions. Those that are grateful exercise more and live longer - and evidently happier - lives.

BLOCKS TO GRATITUDE AND HOW TO OVERCOME THEM

It sounds so simple and easy, but don't be surprised if you encounter some common blocks to cultivating gratitude. Paraphrased here are some of author Kathy Freston's insights for how to fix faulty thinking about gratitude.

MYTH #1: If I am grateful for my present situation, it means I'm satisfied with what I have and cannot hope for something more. REALITY: When we are grateful for what we have now, we are actually programming ourselves for more; it becomes natural to gravitate toward more satisfying situations.

MYTH #2: Gratitude makes me a sucker. It makes me happy to have the booby prize. REALITY: Being thankful doesn't force us to be happy with what we're stuck with, but simply indicates that we are appreciative of all the good we already have. It's entirely possible to be both grateful for some (now), as well as grateful for more (to come).

MYTH #3: If I am grateful, I'll feel small and diminished by a "meek" stance in a tough world. REALITY: It takes confidence and strength to express gratitude. Being appreciative tends to makes people want to do more for us, not less.

MYTH #4: If I get too grateful, I won't be motivated or ambitious to move forward. REALITY: Gratitude doesn't make us lazy - it inspires and energizes us to get more of that feeling of well-being.

A DAILY PRACTICE TO CULTIVATE GRATITUDE

To begin cultivating gratitude, be open and receptive (and if necessary, look diligently) for something to be thankful for in each of the following areas of your life on a daily basis. Good times to do this are as you are waking up in the morning or going to sleep at night.

  • Body/Physical Health
  • Home/Environment
  • Money/Resources
  • Work/School
  • Relationships
  • Contribution (random acts of kindness).
  • Appreciation of Beauty

It is particularly helpful to do this practice when things are going well - when you've had a good day or something good happened. In other words, "dig the well before the house is on fire." Do this practice often enough and regularly enough to let it take root in your psyche and become part of your lifestyle, a part of the way you think and live. When you notice you've lost touch with this practice or forgotten about it, just begin again.

Don't be surprised to find that you begin to structure your whole day around the practice of gratitude. Whenever you have a few moments to yourself, this is where you can let your mind center - looking for something to be grateful about.

Dr. Jan Anderson, Psy.D., LPCC, has a unique ability to focus on the well-being of the whole person. In addition to a doctorate in clinical psychology and a private counseling practice, she also has real-world corporate business experience and expertise in the mind-body connection. Dr. Jan enjoys speaking and writing about a range of topics she is passionate about - relationships, wellness, work and spirituality. You can read her blogs at www.DrJanAnderson.com or contact her at LifeWise@DrJanAnderson.com.

Effective July 1, 2012, The Meadows Wickenburg will adopt an all-inclusive pricing model. This change responds to patients' requests to know what their program costs will be at the onset of treatment. As The Meadows launches the new fee structure, a special promotion will be offered to patients that admit to The Meadows five-week inpatient program for the time period July 1 - August 15, 2012.

The Meadows specializes in treating trauma, PTSD, alcohol addiction, drug addiction, codependency, depression, bipolar disorders, sexual compulsivity, love addiction, love avoidance, eating disorders, work addiction, and gambling addiction.

The Meadows is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about how The Meadows can help you or your loved one take advantage of this limited-time inpatient discount offer, contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 psychiatric hospital that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

Monday, 02 September 2013 20:00

What Does Your Recovery Voice SAY?

The Meadows Alumni Association invites you to join in celebrating National Recovery Month in September by participating in our weekly events. This month is definitely about having fun but also to raise awareness about addiction and mental health. Our recovery voices create a pathway for those who are still silent.

Click here for full schedule of events

WEEK ONE

What Does Your Recovery Voice Say?

What does your recovery voice say? Does it share your story? Does your recovery voice express experience, strength and hope? If you asked your recovery voice about you, what would it say?

Event: You Can Say That Again-  Get ready to see what our Alumni are saying in their recovery voice and join the conversation.
When: Wednesday September 4th
Action:Share your recovery story with the Meadows community! Use template provided or keep it to letter size so I can print out for the campus event.

Most Important Action: Email Morgan Day at alumni@themeadows.com or Submit your post to the Meadows blog.

The Meadows announced the addition of Patrick Carnes’ Gentle Path Program. Through this definitive and exclusive license agreement with New Freedom Corporation, Gentle Path will be relocating from Pine Grove Behavioral Health and Addiction Services in Hattiesburg, Miss. to The Meadows’ newest property, Vista, located two miles from the main campus. Vista will open on October 15, 2013, offering a 26-bed facility and an exclusive and confidential setting for males 18 years and older.

The Gentle Path program is based on the ground breaking work of Dr. Carnes’ Thirty-Task model which has been empirically validated to be an effective form of treatment for sexually compulsive behavior.  Patients of the Gentle Path program undergo a comprehensive diagnostic assessment prior to participation in the residential treatment program. Patients focus on trauma therapy in addition to treatment for mood disturbance, anxiety, or addictions such as chemical dependency and process addictions.

"The Meadows is pleased that Gentle Path will join our organization and provide us the opportunity to expand our services to men who suffer from a sexual disorder," said Jim Dredge, CEO for The Meadows. "We are thrilled that Dr. Patrick Carnes has returned to The Meadows as a new Senior Fellow, as well as directing the Gentle Path program."

Gentle Path offers a comprehensive level of holistic treatment and services which includes 12-Step groups and an intensive one-week Family Care Program. Family week brings together patients'; loved ones to assist in dealing with difficult issues, identify the problems they face and set goals for recovery. In addition, The Meadows' signature Survivors Workshop will be added to the program, along with Equine Therapy and Somatic Experiencing®.

"Walking onto The Meadows campus was like returning home," said Dr. Patrick Carnes. "I look forward to a collaborative, exciting, and innovative new version of the Gentle Path Program."

Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., C.A.S., is a nationally known speaker on sex addiction and recovery issues.  He is the founder of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and Gentle Path Press. From 1996 until 2004, Dr. Carnes was Clinical Director for Sexual Disorder Services at The Meadows. His achievements include the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH), where they present an annual "Carnes Award" to researchers and clinicians who have made exceptional contributions to the field of sexual health.

Dr. Carnes is the author of Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction (1992), Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict (1989), The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships (1997), Open Hearts (1999), Facing the Shadow (2001), In the Shadows of the Net (2001), and The Clinical Management of Sex Addiction (2002), Recovery Zone (2009), and A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Principles (2012). Dr. Carnes' article, "18.4 Sexual Addiction," appears in Kaplan & Sadock's Comprehensive Textbook of Psychiatry (2005).

The Meadows is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows Gentle Path Program, contact an intake coordinator at (866)856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 Sub-Acute Agency that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

Monday, 26 August 2013 20:00

The Meadows Horse of the Month - DUSTY

Dusty - 23year old -Strawberry Roan - Quarter horse - Gelding

Boundaries are one of the most requested issues that Participants want to work on at Equine.

So where can you find a safe and reliable place to practice noticing and responding to boundaries? A place where you can literally see and feel boundaries?

Dusty is that space. He is amazing in that he is consistent, honest and clear in his expression of personal boundaries. He is not what you would call cuddly. We affectionately refer to him as our "Grumpy Old Man." With Dusty you always know exactly what he wants. No question. He makes no excuses and never second guesses himself. If he wants to be close that day you know it. If he wants space that day, you know it too. Groups have begun only to have Dusty lay down and fall asleep or take a nap. The photo above is Dusty napping during a group.

Dusty created our Boundaries experiential all on his own. We would watch Participants approach him and see him begin setting boundaries. Often the more subtle cues were missed and so he would be more obvious with ears and making a face. If these cues were also missed he would move away or move his head up and down in the air. So the question posed is always the same "Do you ever find yourself in an out of control situation but have no idea how it got that way?"

By moving toward Dusty and then away Participants can see exactly when the Boundary is being set and also FEEL when the Boundary is there. Dusty sets and holds boundaries with an almost tangible energy. It's a very confident feeling. To Participants who chose to work with Dusty it becomes very clear; that in learning how to recognize the boundaries he sets, they were also better able to see other boundaries being set around them. Boundaries that, before would have been totally unrecognized, are now easily seen.

Even though he is a horse that clearly prefers the predictable black and white of life, Dusty willingly stands in the grey messiness of us trying to figure out human Boundaries. With Dusty the more you lean into the Boundary the clearer and more obvious it gets. He is a horse that brings things into focus and gives you a look at life through eyes that see things in a much simpler way.

Finding out that your committed partner has sexually betrayed you is like: getting your heart ripped out, stomped on, thrown through a glass window, spit on, and perhaps lastly, smothered with gasoline and set on fire. Then, your partner asks you to forgive him or her; and you don't think you could ever be more furious and disgusted.

This is a common experience for the Partners of Sexual Addicts that I work with on a weekly basis at The Meadows. The stories and behaviors may be different but the underlying foundation of the damage is always Betrayal. Emotional, Physical, Sexual, and Financial betrayal is devastating and gut-wrenchingly painful for a partner who had dreams and hopes of having a healthy and committed relationship. Those dreams are now shattered and the Partner is left with the questions of "Why wasn't I enough?", "How could they do this to me?"; and "Where do I go from here?"

Sexual Addiction stems from a deep rooted intimacy and attachment disorder that often starts within childhood, teenage, or young adult years. Many of the patients I work with at The Meadows have been engaging in some type of dysfunctional, sexual fantasies, thoughts, and/or behaviors since they could remember, far before ever meeting their current partner or spouse. Sexual Addiction thrives off of Shame. Often times the addict's shame, due to their behaviors and lies, will be deflected or projected onto the partner and they are the ones that have to carry it.

Because sexuality and being sexual is so important and integral in intimate coupleships, when that is destroyed or taken outside the primary relationship, the partner has no choice but to take it personally and look at it as an attack on themselves and who they are or are not. Many spouses that I speak with will say to me, "Why wasn't I attractive enough, sexual enough, loved enough to keep him/her with me?" My message to them is: "If there is one thing I want you to learn this week, it is that this had nothing to do with what you have or have not done".

So if the partner did not cause the addiction and is not an addict themselves then why be a part of the patient's treatment and come to Family Week? I often hear from partners: "He is the sick one! He gets to go and get help and leave me here at home with the chaos and damage that he created! And now he is asking me to drop everything and come to Arizona for a week to help him?" My reply is: "Come here for YOU."

Within the Family Week program, partners are given resources and tools to start to stand on solid ground. Family Week is NOT about reconciliation, fixing the problem or hearing an excuse about why the patient acted out. The week long program is designed around boundary setting and healthy communication that allow the partner to be heard and protected.

Being betrayed will undoubtedly, for most partners, contribute to feelings of shame and worthlessness that creates a deep, dark wound within them. The Meadows and Pia Mellody define Trauma as "Anything less than nurturing". Sexual betrayal would obviously fit into this category based on the definition and many partners experience symptoms of trauma such as hypervigilance, despair, flashbacks and nightmares, among other experiences. The shame and trauma need to be addressed for the partner to start to heal that wound. Even if the partner decides to move on from that relationship he or she will continue to be plagued in life and through other relationships if not addressed.

Through my work at The Meadows, I have seen amazing growth and strength in men and women who thought that they could have never dug themselves out of the dark hole that sexual addiction created. Recovery work, for both the addict and partner, instills hope, perseverance, and self-worth that they thought they had lost. The Meadows Workshops such as Partners of Sex Addicts, Survivors, and Women's Intimacy Issues are great resources to help partners to gain awareness, understanding, and tools to help themselves and their families.

Lauren Bierman is a Family Counselor at the Meadows working with the Sex Addiction population. She is a Licensed Associate Counselor and has been trained through Patrick Carnes and IITAP's Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) program. Her passion is working with Partners of Sex Addicts in their own healing process and helping them find hope after sexual betrayal.

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