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Senior Fellows at The Meadows Claudia Black, PhD, and Patrick Carnes, PhD, CAS, will be featured speakers at the upcoming Summit for Clinical Excellence, March 9 -12. The summit offers advanced clinical training for therapists and counselors with up to 26 Continuing Education Credits (CEUs) available.

The theme this year is “Freud Meet Buddha: Mindfulness, Trauma and Process Addictions.” . Dr. Black will give her keynote presentation, “ Reverberations of Trauma in the Addictive Family” on March 9. Dr. Carnes will present “The Secret of Life: The Meaning of Recovery” on March 11. Other sessions will cover topics such as…

  • Brain-based therapy and PTSD;
  • Mindfulness for Anxiety and Depression;
  • Understanding Addiction Interaction,
  • Compassion Practice and Empathy Training for Therapists,
  • Turning Sexual Problems into Personal Growth;
  • Contemplative Psychotherapy: Beginning with Oneself;
  • and more.

The conference is co-hosted this year by The Claudia Black Young Adult Center at The Meadows, and Gentle Path at The Meadows. To register, go

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If you’re a certified sex addiction therapist, or someone who has been through sex addiction treatment, you may be familiar with the concept of the trauma egg. It plays an important role in the completion of Task 9, Acknowledge Cycles of Abuse, in Dr. Patrick Carnes’ 30 Task Model of sex addiction treatment.

Its use is not limited to sex addiction treatment, though. Completing and sharing a trauma egg in group therapy or with a therapist or sponsor can be a very empowering activity for any one working through the aftermath of emotional trauma.

The trauma egg was developed as a tool for treating emotional trauma by Marilyn Murray, an internationally-recognized authority on trauma, abuse, deprivation, and its consequences. Along with The Circles of Intimacy, The Scindo Syndrome, and The Survival Bricks, it makes up what’s known as The Murray Method, which she has developed and expanded upon throughout her more than 30 years of experience.

Marilyn’s work inspires and complements the work of our some of our own therapists and Senior Fellows at The Meadows. That’s why we feel especially honored that Marilyn herself has offered to facilitate a Murray Method Workshop at The Meadows Outpatient Center in Scottsdale, Arizona. It is the first time in more than 10 years that Marilyn has offered her training in the United States.

The Trauma Egg

Completing a trauma egg allows a person to take an inventory of emotionally traumatic and painful events that took place throughout their lives from birth to the present day. More importantly, the activity helps them to begin to identify the traumatic personal beliefs that resulted from those events.

For example, if a child experiences a lot of abandonment, he or she forms a belief to explain why they were abandoned. The belief they create may be that there were not good enough or that they were unworthy.

Traumatic beliefs are disempowering and painful, and they prevent people from understanding their real emotional needs. Those who don’t understand their emotional needs often don’t know how to fulfill them in healthy ways, and may turn to drugs, alcohol, sex, or a variety of other substances and activities to try and fill the emptiness left behind by their unmet emotional needs.

Through sharing the trauma egg with a therapist or therapy group, a person can gain a new perspective on the events in their lives, and begin to challenge and change their core, traumatic beliefs. This is the key to recovery from addictions and many other behavioral disorders.

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The Murray Method Workshop

The Murray Method workshop is a four-day training session that gives therapists and mental health professionals the opportunity to complete a trauma egg of their own and to develop deeper insights about the effects of trauma and abuse on their patients and themselves. CEUs are available for those who complete the course.

Shereen Hariri, MFT, attended one of Marilyn’s Murray Method workshops and says it really enhanced her perspectives on trauma and treatment:

“We were using [the trauma egg] a little bit with our intensive outpatient clients who were coming in for sex addiction and love addiction, but when I took the course with her… I just really got this experience of getting it….If you want to the full experience, go find Marilyn and do the whole thing with her.”

Ralph H. Earle (MDiv, PhD, ABPP, LMFT, CSAT) of Psychological Counseling Services in Scottsdale, Arizona says he also recommends Marilyn Murray and her Murray Method without reservation.

“I have used the Murray Method both personally and professionally. The method impacted me in terms of my own growth—most importantly, I was “Marilynized” almost 30 years ago when Marilyn was developing her method. It also impacted me in terms of my relationship with my son… The Murray Method has literally been used every day in our practice by all of our therapists.”

Although the workshop is geared toward professionals, all are welcome to attend. Mostly anyone could benefit from spending time thinking about their core beliefs and how they may be holding them back. One of our Intake coordinators would be happy to help you determine whether this workshop is right for you.

Sessions of The Murray Method will be offered at The Meadows Outpatient Center on

  • February 18 – 21, 2016  
  • March 17 – 20, 2016
  • April 14 – 17, 2016

To learn more about the workshop, or to register, call 800-244-4949 or visit The Meadows Outpatient Center Events page.

Published in Trauma
Wednesday, 13 January 2016 00:00

Serving Members of the Military with TRICARE

Did you know that The Meadows is an approved TRICARE Provider and is in-network in the Western Region? This means that 2.9 million eligible beneficiaries can receive world-class mental health treatment services by accessing benefits available to them.

This is an incredible benefit because The Meadows is typically a private pay facility. In fact, our agreement to be a TRICARE Provider in the Western Region is The Meadows’ only insurance contract. The Tricare Western Region includes Alaska, Arizona, California, Colorado, Hawaii, Idaho, Iowa (excluding the Rock Island Arsenal area), Kansas, Minnesota, Missouri (excluding the St. Louis area), Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Mexico, North Dakota, Oregon, South Dakota, Texas (the southwestern corner only, including El Paso), Utah, Washington, and Wyoming.

The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, psychiatrists, therapists, and counselors has a high desire to be of service to active duty military members, retirees, and dependents covered under this plan. We are honored to provide behavioral health and substance abuse inpatient services to TRICARE beneficiaries, with an emphasis on emotional trauma, PTSD, addictive disease disorders, and behavioral and sexual addictions.

Decades of Experience

The Meadows has been a leading provider of trauma and addiction treatment services for nearly 40 years. At our confidential and tranquil campuses just 90-minutes from Phoenix, Arizona, our multidisciplinary treatment team uses state-of-the-art trauma therapies and neuroscience to address the underlying issues that cause patterns of self-destructive behavior, allowing the patient to begin the process of healing.

Committed To Helping

The Meadows has a long history of working with members of the military and their families. We are tremendously proud to help serve the health care needs of service members, veterans, and their families, and would be happy to help determine eligibility and benefits that can be utilized at The Meadows. We are committed to helping military beneficiaries and partnering with all aspects of the TRICARE Healthcare Alliance.

Give us a call today to discuss how we can help. 800-244-4949

Published in Military Issues
Wednesday, 16 December 2015 00:00

The Holidays Offer Lessons for Recovery

By Lynn Litschke, Chaplain/Spiritual Care Provider at The Meadows

‘Tis the season of celebration. The landscape of our everyday lives is transformed with the glow of candles, the jingle of bells, the fragrance of pine and spice, wrapping paper and ribbons, feasting and festivity. There is a touch of magic in the air.

Yet for those of us in recovery this can also be a difficult season fraught with triggers, painful memories, and feelings of being disconnected and flawed. In the midst of it all are opportunities to lean solidly into our spirituality and discover new understandings of ourselves and of the season.

Messages of Hope and Healing

This season of holidays originated as “holy” days set apart to commemorate and celebrate very special events. The stories and traditions surrounding these events are packed with spiritual meaning and messages that can be helpful to recovery from addictions and trauma.

Hanukkah reminds us that we can endure and that there can be victory in the face of seemingly insurmountable odds. In the deepest places of despair, our needs can be met with surprising abundance by a Power greater than ourselves.

At Winter Solstice we can choose to enter into the longest, darkest night and, in the midst of our fear, discover hope in the eternally faithful return of the light at dawn.

On Christmas Eve we can reflect on the joy of discovering that Love can and does appear in the lowliest and most unexpected places. In a playful spirit, we can rejoice with the creative imagination of Dr. Seuss as he reminds us that even the grinchiest of bah-humbuggers can be transformed by child-like wonder and gratitude in the face of bitter disappointment.

Every Day in Recovery Can Be a Holy Day

In recovery, we set each day apart, one day at a time, to commemorate and celebrate the very special event of freedom from our addictions. Every day in recovery can be celebrated as a holy day and an opportunity to share the message of experience, strength, and hope.

In this season of celebration, consider the awe and wonder of a poor shepherd, cold and alone in the desert, when a bright light illuminates the darkness and an angel sings out, “Fear not. I want to give you a message of great hope and joy. Glad tidings!” Consider the awe and wonder of a broken, desperate, hurting individual sitting in the back row of their first 12-step meeting when an angel disguised as a simple human being opens a big, blue book and begins to read, “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path…” It is cause for great celebration.

Glad tidings!

Published in Treatment & Recovery
Tuesday, 08 December 2015 00:00

Nine Books for The New Year

Are you hoping to make a fresh start in the New Year? Or maybe take some additional steps along an already well-worn path of self-discovery, recovery, and healing? These books— and in some instances accompanying workshops—can help you identify and move beyond your emotional roadblocks.

Mirror of Intimacy
Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

By Alexandra Katehakis
Alexandra Katehakis is a Senior Fellow at The Meadows. Her philosophies and techniques for treating sex addiction and intimacy issues helps to inform our Gentle Path at The Meadows program. Her latest book, Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence contains a year’s worth of daily reflections that explores a rich array of approaches for supporting loving connection. It’s a great companion for those looking to stay grounded and cultivate real intimacy in their day-to-day lives.

The body keeps the score
The Body Keeps the Score

By Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk is leading researcher in the field of emotional trauma and is a Senior Fellow at The Meadows. His latest work, The Body Keeps the Score, has been described by reviewers as “a bold new paradigm for healing.” In the book, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain. He also discusses innovative treatments that can offer new paths to recovery and exposes the ways in which our relationships can both hurt and heal. He also offers new hope for those who wish to reclaim their lives.

a mans way through relationships
A Man’s Way Through Relationships

By Dan Griffin
Dan Griffin, who joined The Meadows as a Senior Fellow in 2015, has written a useful guide to the challenges men face in creating healthy and engaging relationships. In it, he teaches men how to navigate the “Man Rules”—the often unconscious ideas men carry with them into their relationships that affect their ability to find true connection. He also offers practical advice and inspiration for men to define, with their partners, their own sense of masculinity, and heighten their potential to love and be loved. Dan will also be hosting the A Man’s Way™ Retreat at the Rio Retreat Center at The Meadows. The program is based on this book and A Man’s Way through the 12 Steps. Sessions will be offered in January, April, July and October. Check the webpage for more details or call 800-244-4949.

the murray method
The Murray Method

By Marilyn Murray
After several years as a very successful art dealer and businesswoman in Scottsdale, Arizona, Marilyn Murray, M.A., sought treatment for severe depression. Her experience inspired her to return to college to study Psychology where she began developing her method for helping others heal from trauma, abuse and deprivation. Her book, The Murray Method, offers insights and a series of exercises to help readers begin processing their own trauma and move beyond their pain.

Marilyn will also teach a seminar on The Murray Method at The Meadows Outpatient Center staring in February. The four-day training session places special emphasis on the personal work of the health professional, based on the belief that a therapist always must address his or her own issues first in order to be an effective clinician; but, all are welcome to attend. For more information, visit The Meadows Outpatient Center website, or call 800-244-4949.

the betrayal bond
The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships

By Patrick Carnes
Exploitive relationships can create what Dr. Patrick Carnes, Senior Fellow at The Meadows and Gentle Path at The Meadows calls trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. In The Betrayal Bond, Dr. Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful and provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.

This book is also the basis for The Betrayal Bond workshop offered at The Rio Retreat Center at The Meadows. Workshop participants will be guided through the process of breaking through denial, exploring the root causes on their involvement in destructive relationships, and more. More information, including upcoming dates, are available on the Rio Retreat Center website, or by calling 800-244-4949.

changing course
Changing Course

By Claudia Black, PhD
In Changing Course, Claudia Black, Meadows Senior Fellow and founder of the Claudia Black Young Adult Center, presents her healing model for adults whose lives are burdened by pain. She delves into the shame and abandonment many people carry with them, based on an early family life was either too chaotic or too rigid. She explains how chronic loss in childhood colors one’s world-view and determines their beliefs, feelings and behaviors— probably without their awareness. Readers of this book will walk away with a better understanding of how they can live life with no more roles, no more secrets, and a new way of being.

healing trauma
Healing Trauma

By Peter Levine
Researchers have shown that survivors of accidents, disaster, and childhood trauma often endure lifelong symptoms, ranging from anxiety and depression to unexplained physical pain, fatigue, illness, and harmful "acting out" behavior. In Healing Trauma The Meadows Senior Fellow Dr. Peter Levine to learn about using body awareness to "renegotiate" and heal traumas—to "revisit" rather than relive them; emergency "first-aid" measures for times of distress; nature's lessons—the physiological roots of your emotions; and much more.

healing the shame that binds you
Healing the Shame That Binds You

By John Bradshaw
In this book, Meadows Senior Fellow John Bradshaw explains how toxic shame is at the heart of our compulsions, codependencies, addictions, and drive to superachieve. These issues often result in the breakdown of the family system and in our inability to move forward with our lives. Drawing from his many years of experience as a counselor, he offers techniques to heal shame using affirmations, visualizations, “inner voice” and “feeling” work, plus guided meditations and other useful techniques to release the shame that binds us to our past.

facing codependence
Facing Codependence

By Pia Mellody
The theories that The Meadows Senior Fellow Pia Mellody presents in Facing Codependence are the same ones on which The Meadows treatment model is based. In it, Pia traces the origins of codependence back to childhood, and explores a range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses and their particular effects on an individual in adulthood. She shows how, based on their early experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships.

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