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The Meadows' Senior Fellows, Dr. Claudia Black, Dr. Shelley Uram, and Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, will be featured speakers at the 1st International Conference on Sex and Love Addiction on April 4-6, 2013, at the New York Marriott at Brooklyn Bridge in Brooklyn, NY. The Meadows is also a contributing sponsor of this event.

The conference theme is "Global Advances in Clinical Treatment" and is designed to create a platform for dialogue across disciplines and countries. The conference will provide a stage for the exchange of ideas about how the international community is providing education and treatment for sexual addiction; begin an international dialogue on the impact of cybersex; disseminate information on the most current tools and research on assessment and treatment; provide collaboration across associations and professional organizations to further knowledge and reduce stigma.

"We are pleased to be presenting and sponsoring the First International Conference on Sex and Love Addiction," said Jim Dredge, CEO for The Meadows. "Our Senior Fellows who will be presenting are leaders in the fields of sex addiction and trauma."

For more information and to register visit http://www.themeadows.com/events/detail/international-conference-on-sex-and-love-addiction/.

The Meadows Wickenburg is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows' work with trauma and addiction contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center.  In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 Sub-Acute Agency that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

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Monday, 11 February 2013 19:00

What Do You Do With The Shame?

By: Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, PCC, CSAT

Shame is the reason that sex addicts are resistant to working on their recovery and yet reducing shame is the # 1 benefit of working on recovery. Shame is that feeling that your actions have made you so unworthy that you don't deserve to get healthy and be a contributor to society. Shame makes you believe that you are worthless, unlovable, demonic, horrible, and untreatable.

The secret to breaking the addiction is to come out of the shadows of the addiction and stop keeping it secret. How ironic that the very secret that holds you hostage is the "thing" that you need to disclose to a supportive person to get healthy. When you find a person, a clinician, a community, a sponsor, or a treatment center to start sharing your inner most fears and secrets, you break out of the emotional bondage and begin to heal. People who never find this support continue to stay in the despairs of their addiction and will continue to foster the notion that there is nothing out there that will free them from their inner secrets.

You can break free from your shame but you can't do it alone. Isolation keeps you in shame and keeps the addiction fortified.

To start the process of recovery requires that you:

  • Find a trusted resource to begin to disclose the depths of your addiction.
  • Develop a network of support to assist you in breaking free from the addiction.

When you get therapeutic help for this secret---the sexual addiction---- you will begin to experience the relief of beginning to live a value congruent life. As with any addiction, you hate the person that you have become but you don't know how to turn it around. When you seek treatment with a certified sexual addiction therapist, or begin to attend 12 step groups for sexual addiction, you will learn skills to dramatically change the way you have been living your life. You will receive support to forgive yourself and to move forward in your life.

Why aren't we talking about this disorder?

Sexual Addiction is not just your problem but it is a societal problem. Our culture has done a disservice to you by sexualizing most everything we see or hear Sex is something that is objectified everywhere. You see it glorified in the movies, in print, in advertising, on billboards, and yet we are afraid to speak about it using correct terminology on television or on radio. Parents cringe at having to have the talk with their kids, let alone check in with their child and talk about the boundaries a child should have for their body's sake. Families have difficulty talking about protection from sexual abuse or exploitation and as a result there is an underlying message that one cannot talk openly about sex. This of course magnifies if someone has thoughts or fantasies that appear deviant. Kids and adults are not encouraged to seek help from their families, their schools or their employers if they have a concern that is sexually based.

Sex in and of itself has a secretive shame based connotation and so the thoughts and behaviors escalate before they get acknowledged.

Despite these factors, it is your responsibility to find the resources to break the shame and come out of the shadows of sexual addiction.

If you are reading this blog...know that this is a safe place to visit to begin to treat your sexual issues and shame.

Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, PCC, CSAT, is currently in private practice in Indianapolis, IN. She speaks nationally on mental health issues and is featured in several local magazines. She currently has an internet radio show on www.blogtalkradio.com/sexhelpwithcarolthecoach and does regular television segments focusing on life skills to improve one's potential. You can read her blogs at www.carolthecoach.com

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The Meadows recently announced Claudia Black, M.S.W., Ph.D., as a new Meadows Senior Fellow. Dr. Black is a renowned author and trainer, internationally recognized for her pioneering and contemporary work with family systems and addictive disorders.

In the mid 1970's Dr. Black gave voice to both young and adult children from addictive homes, offering a framework for their healing. This cutting edge work would be critical in creating the foundation for the codependency field and a greater understanding of the impact of family trauma. Since that time, Dr. Black has continued to be a passionate leader in the field of addiction.

Dr. Black has offered models of intervention and treatment related to family violence, multi-addictions, relapse, anger, depression and women’s issues. Dr. Black designs and presents training workshops and seminars to professional audiences in the field of family service, mental health, addiction and correctional services. She has been a keynote speaker on Capitol Hill in Washington DC and on Parliament Hill in Ottawa, Canada. She has extensive multi-cultural experience working with agencies and audiences in countries such as Iceland, Brazil, Japan and others throughout the world.

Dr. Black is one of the original founders of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics and continues to serve on their Advisory Board, and also serves on the Advisory Board of the Moyer Foundation. In addition, she is the author of over 15 books, most notable is It will Never Happen To Me. Her most recent books are related to partners of sex addiction, Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies, and Secrets and Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction. Dr. Black also creates educational videos for use with the addicted client and families affected by addiction. Many of her books and videos have been translated and published abroad.

"It is with great delight that we welcome the return of Claudia Black to The Meadows as a Senior Fellow," said Jim Dredge, The Meadows CEO. "Claudia has made a decision to return to her roots of working with trauma and addictive disease. It is like a homecoming for Claudia and all of us as Claudia previously spent 11 years working in an advisory role with The Meadows."

Additional Meadows' Senior Fellows include: Pia Mellody, John Bradshaw, Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk, Jerry Boriskin and Shelley Uram. Each Meadows Senior Fellow is involved in world-wide practice and research in their area of expertise - lecturing patients on clinical works, publishing works in numerous professional publications, and providing their teachings and expertise to the patients and therapeutic staff at The Meadows.

The Meadows is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows' work with trauma and addiction contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 psychiatric hospital that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

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The Meadows will offer a Men's Sexual Recovery Workshop the week of December 17 from 8:30am to 4:30pm Monday through Friday at The Meadows' campus.

This five-day workshop examines sexual compulsive issues and behaviors by broadening many participants' perspectives about sexuality as they learn to have productive experiences, maintain positive relationships, and avoid harmful patterns of the past.

The Men's Sexual Recovery Workshop helps to lift shame that many people carry and painful memories of unresolved sexual experiences or uncontrolled sexual behaviors, in addition to helping to resolve sexual dilemmas and self-destructive behaviors. The workshop is best for those who want to jumpstart their recovery process, prevent relapse, and acquire tools to support continuing recovery.

Attending a Meadows' workshop offers an individual many benefits. A workshop can be a cost-effective alternative when long-term treatment is not an option. Individuals who cannot be away from their work or families for an extended period of time can attend a workshop and work on sensitive issues in a five-day concentrated format. This allows individuals to jumpstart their personal recovery by gaining insight into patterns and practicing new relational skills within a safe environment.

For more information about The Meadows' Men's Sexual Recovery Workshop and other workshops offered by The Meadows, please contact Christi Erickson, Workshop Coordinator, at 877.787.2226 or visit www.themeadows.com.

The Meadows is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows' work with trauma and addiction contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 psychiatric hospital that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

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The Meadows will be an exhibitor at the Healing Sex and Love Addiction 5th Annual Conference on October 27, 2012, at The Spiritual Life Center in Sacramento, California. The theme of the conference is "Sex Addiction Expanded - Relationship Disturbance & Associated Issues."

This annual conference is organized by the Professional Association for Sexual Addiction Treatment (PASAT), which is an organization of Northern California psychotherapists who specialize in the prevention and treatment of sex and love addiction. PASAT is dedicated to providing training and education on these subjects for clinicians, recovering people and the general public.

The Meadows will be among the exhibitors with staff member Kirk Watson, Business Development Liaison for The Meadows, in attendance.

The Meadows is an industry leader in treating trauma and addiction through its inpatient and workshop programs. To learn more about The Meadows' work with trauma and addiction contact an intake coordinator at (866) 856-1279 or visit www.themeadows.com.

For over 35 years, The Meadows has been a leading trauma and addiction treatment center. In that time, they have helped more than 20,000 patients in one of their three inpatient centers and 25,000 attendees in national workshops. The Meadows world-class team of Senior Fellows, Psychiatrists, Therapists and Counselors treat the symptoms of addiction and the underlying issues that cause lifelong patterns of self-destructive behavior. The Meadows, with 24 hour nursing and on-site physicians and psychiatrists, is a Level 1 psychiatric hospital that is accredited by the Joint Commission.

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