In 2009, Noelle found out that her partner, who is a sex addict, had had an affair. She was devastated.
For Noelle and her wife, it was a life-changing experience. Watch her video to hear how she was able to forgive her wife and begin the process of building a healthier, stronger relationship.
For women struggling with sex addiction, The Meadows offers an inpatient program on the main campus in Wickenburg, Arizona, and an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) at The Meadows Outpatient Center in Scottsdale, Arizona. The Rio Retreat Center at The Meadows also offers several workshops for couples and for the partners of sex addicts.
Call 800-244-4949 for more information.
Natalie felt lost. She didn’t quite understand why, but everything just felt wrong somehow. Even though it was hard for her to admit that she needed help, she reached out.
She found The Meadows Survivors workshop where, for the first time, she began to understand where she came from, where she was going, and where she wanted to be.
Survivors I is an essential component of The Meadows inpatient treatment programs. It is also offered as a stand-alone workshop for anyone who’s interested in learning more about the ways in which self-defeating thoughts and behaviors learned in childhood continue to affect their daily lives.
The intensive, 5-day workshop helps participants identify their specific emotional wounds and understand the impact they have had on their self-esteem, boundary system, level of dependency, and ability to achieve balance and harmony. For more information call 800-244-4949.
Mother’s Day is time to celebrate and show our love and appreciation to our mothers, grandmothers, and female caretakers. However, many of us—in fact probably most of us—have complicated relationships with our mothers. Even if our mothers were well-intentioned, they may not have been able to provide us with what we needed emotionally, because they were stuck living out their own unresolved pain and childhood trauma.
Your early relationship with your mother, without a doubt, had a profound impact on who you are today, in ways both positive and negative. It’s important to always be grateful and appreciative for the gifts we did get from our mothers. But, it’s equally important to non-judgmentally take a look at some of the negative beliefs they may have unintentionally passed onto us, because these beliefs can have a profound impact on the people we are today.
Oftentimes, at the center of our feelings of disempowerment and emptiness—feelings that themselves are often at the core of addiction, depression, anxiety and other behavioral disorders—is the mother wound. The mother wound is the emotional trauma that your mother was unable to heal within herself and passed down to you.
The mother wound begins to develop at a very young age. It consists of that untrue and harmful beliefs that you were responsible for your mother’s pain and that it was your job to make your mother happy by being “good.”
The mother wound often is the source of emotional pain you may feel from comparison (not feeling good enough); shame (the constant feeling that there is something wrong with you); attenuation (the belief that you have to keep yourself small or hidden in order to be loved); and guilt (feeling bad about what you have, or feeling bad for wanting more than you have.) If you carry this wound with you, you may find yourself struggling day-to-day in the following ways:
Most mothers do want to see their children find happiness and succeed. But, if your mother did not come to terms with her own pain and emotional trauma, nor come to terms with the emotional sacrifices she had to make in becoming a mother, her interactions with you may have included subtle messages that caused you to feel guilt, shame, or obligation.
Before a mother can prevent passing down her wounds to her children, she has to fully grieve and mourn her own losses. She also has to make sure she does not rely on her children as her or only or primary source of emotional support or fulfillment.
Many people feel especially uncomfortable addressing the pain they inherited from their mothers. Oftentimes, it is because of the very sense of obligation we feel from our mother wound to be the person who always builds her up, and never tears her down. It is, however, entirely possible to heal your own pain without blaming or hating your mother. In fact, once you have faced and released your own pain, you may find it easier than ever to forgive your mother’s shortcomings and fully appreciate the totality of your relationship with her, both good and bad.
The past is never past. It lives on, every day, in the relational and emotional challenges you face in the ultimate pursuit of inner peace and fulfillment. If you avoid dealing with the pain leftover from what is perhaps the most foundational relationship of your life, you miss the chance to discover your true self and live up to your real, and enormous, potential.
If you’re ready to address and move beyond your childhood trauma, we recommend our renowned Survivors I workshop. In a safe, supportive environment, Survivors I explores the origins that fuel self-defeating behaviors such as addictions, trauma, mood disorders, and troubling relationships. Childhood wounding up to age 18 is approached with compassion and skills are taught in order to re-parent yourself. The primary focus of this workshop is processing and releasing the negative messages and emotions that were rooted in painful experiences from the past allowing the freedom to embody your authentic self.
For more information, call us at 1-800-244-4949 or contact us online.
The Meadows is pleased to announce that we now offer on-site, overnight lodging exclusively for workshop participants at the Rio Retreat Center at The Meadows! And, to celebrate this great news, we’re extending our 25 percent discount on all workshop registration fees through the month of April.
The Rio Retreat Bunkhouse is designed to be conducive to the process of healing and recovery, and is purposely free of the distractions that often accompany hotel lodging.
The Bunkhouse offers workshop participants:
Five nights at The Bunkhouse costs $560 including taxes. Single-occupancy rooms are available at an additional cost.
Rooms are available on a first come, first served basis; early registration is recommended.
Register for any of our intensive workshops, now through April 30 and receive a 25 percent discount. This is a great value on our first-rate workshop programs and facilities. Check out our full workshop schedule, and contact us at 800.244.4949 to register today.
Everyone feels stressed about money and work from time to time, and for good reason. Careers and finances can have a profound impact on our families, our relationships, and our own personal health and well-being. Money and work can play the role that other addictions often play in people’s lives—that of a coping mechanism for unaddressed trauma, emotional pain, and self-destructive personal beliefs. Money obsession, work addiction, spending addiction, under earning, gambling, high-risk investing, chaotic entrepreneurship, hoarding, deprivation, and financial codependence are all signs that unhealthy attitudes about money have taken control of your life.
Are you having trouble reconciling your emotional balance sheet? Do your friends and family complain that you work too much? Do you give up or limit social, occupational, or recreational activities because you’d rather work? Are you frugal to the point of deprivation? Are you uncertain whether your spending habits are normal, or a signal of a larger problem? If so, our Living in Abundance: Balancing Work, Money and Relationships workshop was designed specifically for you.
Living in Abundance is a five-day intensive that will help you develop insights into your relationship to money and work. The workshop aims to help participants:
Each participant will complete the Money and Work Adaptive Styles (MWASI) assessment tool created by Bonnie DenDoovan and receive the interpreted results.
For more details, call 800-244-4949 or contact us online.