Children who grow up with addiction and the relational trauma that surrounds it can carry the imprint of that pain for the rest of their lives.
All or nothing tends to characterize the family that has contained trauma and/or addiction. The tendency to cycle back and forth between black-and-white in thinking, feeling and behavior, reflects the family’s problems with self-regulation consequently the family as a whole and individual members can lose their ability to “right” themselves when thrown off balance.
Published in last Sunday's New York Times (May 4th) is as an excellent article titled High Functioning, But Still Alcoholics.
Chronicled by Times writer Jane Brody, the piece reviews a new book from author Sarah Allen Benton, "Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic" (Praeger Publishers), and describes a familiar scenario:
"high-functioning alcoholics are able to maintain respectable, even high-profile lives, usually with a home, family, job and friends. That balancing act continues until something dreadful happens that reveals the truth - to themselves or to others - and forces the person to enter a treatment program or lose everything that means anything."
An excellent article noted by many here at The Meadows.