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Bellevue, Washington, Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Portland, Oregon, Thursday, March 3, 2011
Lust, Anger, Love: Understanding Sexual Compulsivity and the Road to Healthy Intimacy
This lecture will offer a theoretical structure for the treatment of compulsive sexual behaviors. It will explore the roles of sexualized shame and anger as they relate to the cycle of addiction. The ideology of behavioral patterns, including the development of trauma templates, will be discussed, as will the ways this wounding relates to specific sexual behavioral patterns. The lecture also will explore the integration of theoretical approaches, behaviors and specific treatment techniques.

About the Presenter:

Maureen Canning, MA, LMFT, Clinical Consultant for Sexual Disorders at The Meadows and Dakota, has extensive experience working with sexual disorders. She is a past board member of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, as well as past president of the Arizona Council on Sexual Addiction. She facilitated inpatient sexual disorders treatment at The Meadows for a number of years before opening a private practice in Phoenix. Maureen is the author of Lust, Anger, Love: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Road to Healthy Intimacy.

Learning Objectives
Participants will be able to:

  • Describe the diagnostic criteria for sexual addiction
  • Explore the roles of sexualized anger and shame in the addiction cycle
  • Recognize and discuss trauma templates

Location - Washington
Hilton Bellevue Hotel
300 112th Avenue SE
Bellevue, Washington 98004
Location - Oregon
Holiday Inn® Portland Airport
8439 NE Columbia Blvd.
Portland, Oregon 97220
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Registration 8:30 a.m. - 9 a.m.
Lecture 9 a.m. - 12 p.m.
Lunch 12 p.m. - 1 p.m. (boxed lunch provided)
Lecture 1 p.m. - 4 p.m.
$95 per person / $85 online registration
(includes lecture, lunch, materials, hotel parking and 6 continuing education credits)
Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits

March 29, 2011

Adrianna Irvine will be speaking at The Meadows Free Lecture on March 29, 2011 at 7pm at The Cadogan Hotel, Knightsbridge in London. Ms. Irvine will discuss A Cross Cultural View on Cross Addiction. The presentation will cover the difference between substance addictions and process addictions, including the more recent findings of the likelihood of cross addiction between both categories. It will also briefly cover dual diagnosis with an in-depth look at some the different fellowships within the 12 step programs. Contact Jenna Pastore at 001 815 6412185 for more information. No registration required. We look forward to seeing you.

Thursday, 17 February 2011 19:00

Frequently Asked Questions about Sex Addiction

I receive many questions about sex addiction. I thought I would share some common questions...

Does all sex addiction come from abuse? I don't think I was abused as a kid.

There are two ways abuse can manifest; the first is overt abuse. Overt abuse is usually aggressive behavior that is measurable, such as bruises, a raised voice, a verbal attack, or an insult. The second is covert abuse. Covert abuse is passive, often unconscious, and not seen as abusive (such as withholding love, giving a stern or threatening look, failing to protect a child, or minimizing his or her realities). One can be abused covertly and/or overtly and, no matter how the abuse is perpetrated, it always leaves victims feeling shame and pain on some level.

Individuals often normalize abusive behavior or, even worse, blame themselves for the abuse. "If I hadn't been drunk, I wouldn't have been raped." "Putting each other down is just what my family does." When it is pointed out that these are examples of abuse, often the reaction is denial, defensiveness, or confusion.

Because of these common reactions, it is important to grasp the scope of abuse and to become aware of how abuse may have affected or influenced one's life.

Once an individual begins to understand the scope of abuse they can see how it set them up to feel disemboweled as a child because of the continual fear, guilt, and shaming one received. The wreckage of such abuse leaves all sex addicts with a sense of betrayal so severe that they lose the ability to trust. They are convinced that if they are seen or really known, they will be despised.

Too afraid to tell anyone, the addict learned what was perhaps his most powerful coping skill. He learned to live a double life- a life of secrets and lies, where shame festers, multiplies, and spreads like a deadly cancer. But when one can establish a bond of trust, they can have a respectful attachment- a place at which the healing can begin.

What does abuse look like?

Below is an outline of the types of abuse, with examples of specific behaviors in each category.

I. Physical Abuse (any forced or violent physical action)

  • Hitting
  • Punching
  • Scratching
  • Spitting
  • Pushing
  • Burning
  • Burning
  • Choking
  • Poking
  • Unsolicited touching or tickling
  • Restraining
  • Pulling hair
  • Slapping

II. Emotional or Verbal Abuse (putting down, threatening, and saying cruel or untrue things about another person)

  • Cursing, swearing, screaming
  • Harassing or interrogating
  • Insulting, name-calling, shaming, ridiculing
  • Threatening to harm; beat up; sabotage; hurt; maim or kill pets, children, or
  • family members
  • Controlling others (e.g., through money or power)
  • Criticizing
  • Forcing others to engage in degrading acts
  • Making accusations
  • Blaming
  • Intimidating
  • Punching, throwing, destroying property
  • Going through others' property or possessions
  • Stealing
  • Threatening to kill oneself as a form of manipulation
  • Sexualizing others
  • Driving recklessly
  • Stalking
  • Not letting others sleep or eat
  • Making facial expressions or physical gestures that indicate judgment, rejection, ridicule (e.g., smirking, covering the ears as if unwilling to listen, walking out of the room while someone is sharing, rolling the eyes, shaking the head, moving the hands in a manner indicating that the other is wrong or inadequate)

III. Sexual Abuse (any nonconsensual sexual act, behavior, gesture)

  • Not respecting "no"
  • Making sexual remarks, jokes, innuendos, suggestions, insults
  • Taking advantage of situations and exploiting others' intoxication or incapacitation
  • Demanding or manipulating unwanted sexual acts (e.g., anal penetration, physical restriction, choking, golden showers, oral sex, sadomasochistic acts, role-playing)
  • Having unprotected sex while knowingly having a sexually transmittable disease
  • Giving sexual criticism
  • Engaging in inappropriate touching (e.g., touching in public, grabbing, pinching the breast or groin)
  • Blackmailing or manipulating the vulnerable (i.e., the much younger and/or sexually inexperienced, the disabled, the mentally or emotionally challenged)
  • Taking advantage of a power differential (e.g., the case of a boss, clergy member, lawyer, judge, law enforcement officer, landlord, teacher, coach)

IV. Neglect (failing to provide the essential necessities for a child, including the following)

  • Nurturance
  • Clothing
  • Medical care
  • Dental care
  • Security
  • Protection
  • Hygiene
  • Education
  • Supervision
  • Shelter
  • Attention to physical, emotional, and intellectual needs

This outline does not include every possible abusive behavior, but it does provide an overview of abuse.

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Tuesday, 15 February 2011 19:00

Free Lecture Series TONIGHT in Tucson

Sex, Love and Longing:
Understanding the Addicted Self

Wednesday, February 16, 2011
6:30 p.m. to 8 p.m.

Debra L. Kaplan, MA, LAC, LISAC, CSAT-III

Jewish Heritage Center
3800 East River Road
Tucson, Arizona 85718

Earn 1.5 Continuing Education Credits
No registration required.

For information on The Meadows or The Meadows' Arizona-based activities, please contact Meagan Foxx, Arizona Community Relations Representative, at 866-922-0951, 602-531-5320 (local) or email

Tuesday, 15 February 2011 19:00

Free Lecture Series TONIGHT in Seattle

Video Game and Internet Addiction:
What You Need to Know

Wednesday, February 16, 2011
7 p.m. to 9 p.m.

Hilarie Cash, PhD, LMHC

Double Tree Hotel
16500 Southcenter Parkway
Seattle, Washington 98188
Free Parking

Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Getting It: Eight Realizations of Those Who Work at Recover
George Duwors, MSW, LCSW

Earn 2 continuing education hours for the following:
NAADAC Approved Provider, Provider # 000217. The Meadows is recognized by the National Board for Certified Counselors to offer continuing education. Provider # 5687.
No registration required.

For information on The Meadows or its Seattle-based activities, please contact I.J. Williams, Washington/Oregon/Idaho Community Relations Representative, at 866-922-0945 (360-980-0376 local) or email

Tuesday, 15 February 2011 19:00

Free Lecture Series MONDAY in Phoenix

Feel Confident.
Promote Your Life Work.

Monday, February 21, 2011
7 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.

Sarah Jenkins, LPC

Chaparral Christian Church
6451 East Shea Blvd.
Scottsdale, Arizona 85254
Please No Smoking on Church Property

Earn 1.5 Continuing Education Credits
No registration required.

For information on The Meadows or The Meadows' Arizona-based activities, please contact Meagan Foxx, Arizona Community Relations Representative, at 866-922-0951, 602-531-5320 (local) or email

For immediate release:
Feb. 14, 2011
Wickenburg, Arizona


The Meadows is pleased to announce the naming of Jerry Boriskin, PhD, CAS, as Senior Fellow.

Dr. Boriskin is an author, lecturer, and clinician widely known for his ground breaking work in the fields of trauma, PTSD, and addictive disorders. He was a pioneer in extending the continuum of care and developed two extended residential treatment programs for co-occurring disorders. A passionate advocate for integrated treatment, he possessed a vision that predated the ongoing movement toward specialized and integrated treatment for co-occurring disorders, particularly those involving trauma.

In addition to his groundbreaking work with The Meadows, Dr. Boriskin is the author of “PTSD and Addiction: A Practical Guide for Clinicians and Counselors.” and co-authored, “At Wit’s End: What Families Need to Know When A Loved One is Diagnosed with Addiction and Mental Illness.”

Jim Dredge, CEO of The Meadows, said, "we are fortunate indeed to have Dr. Boriskin as a member of The Meadows' team. Thanks to his hard work and dedication, The Meadows is at the forefront of the treatment of co-occurring disorders and trauma."

The Meadows, with rehab treatment centers in Arizona and Texas, has been a leader in the treatment of addiction, trauma and recovery since 1976.

Contact: Nancy Koplow, Director Of Marketing, The Meadows.  Phone: 800-632-3697

Dr. Boriskin is an author, lecturer, and clinician with expertise in trauma, PTSD, and addictive disorders. He began his career in 1979 when PTSD emerged as a diagnosis. He transitioned to the private sector in the mid-1980s, working with sexual abuse survivors and addicts. He is a licensed psychologist and addiction specialist who recently resumed working with warriors at the V.A. of Northern California. He has authored PTSD and Addiction: A Practical Guide for Clinicians and Counselors and co-authored At Wit's End: What Families Need to Know When A Loved One is Diagnosed with Addiction and Mental Illness.

March 16, 2011

Patty French, MA, LCPC, CADC, CEAP will be speaking at The Meadows Free Lecture on March 16, 2011 at 7:00 pm at The Winnetka Community House in Winnetka, Illinois. Ms. French will discuss Enhancing Recovery through the use of Effective Boundaries. Discover the power of boundaries and how to use them to build and maintain personal well-being, promote healthy relationships, and raise your life to a new level of happiness and contentment. In this lecture, you will gain a better understanding of what boundaries are, why they are important and how to create your own personal boundaries.

Contact Jenna Pastore at 815-641-2185 for more information. No registration required. We look forward to seeing you.

For immediate release:
Jan. 31, 2011
Wickenburg, Arizona


On January 22, 2011, The Meadows, America's premier center for the treatment of addiction and trauma, honored senior fellow John Bradshaw by dedicating a lecture hall in his name. Panels lining the walls of the John Bradshaw Lecture Hall illustrate the important contributions made by this extraordinary individual to the fields of addiction, trauma and family systems.

Leading the dedication ceremony was The Meadows CEO, Jim Dredge, who said, "John Bradshaw has touched the lives of millions of people around the world through his ground-breaking work and teachings. We are honored to have him as a colleague... and to know him as a friend."

After the dedication Mr. Bradshaw, surrounded by The Meadows staff, guests and patients shared stories of his own personal journey in recovery.

John Bradshaw is a celebrated educator, counselor, motivational speaker, theologian, author and one of the leading figures in the fields of addiction, recovery, family systems and the concept of toxic shame. He was recently selected by his peers as one of the "100 most influential writers on emotional health in the 20th Century." Over the years, Mr. Bradshaw has written several New York Times bestselling books, including, "Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child," "Creating Love" and "Healing The Shame
That Binds You."

Mr. Bradshaw has been closely associated with The Meadows for over 10 years, giving insights to patients, speaking at alumni retreats and lecturing to mental health professionals at their numerous workshops and seminars.

The Meadows, with treatment centers in Arizona and Texas, has been an innovator and leader in the fields of addiction and trauma treatment since 1976.

Contact: Nancy Koplow, Director Of Marketing, The Meadows.

Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, CSAT will speak at The Meadows Houston Free Lecture Series on Tuesday, March 1, 2011 from 7:00 - 8:30 pm at The Council on Alcohol and Drugs Houston at 303 Jackson Hill in Houston, Texas. The lecture title is "If It's Not One Thing It's Your Mother: How to Move Beyond Blame and Reclaim Your Wholeness." The lecture will explore how our family of origin experiences affect us in profound ways and how, in our adults lives, we seek what is familiar even if it is uncomfortable or worse yet, abusive. Vicki will present key concepts and strategies to begin the process of telling the truth about our childhood and reconnecting with disowned or forgotten parts of the self so that we can reclaim our wholeness. Contact The Meadows Community Relations Representative, Melanie Shelnutt at (713) 702-7784 for more information. No registration required. We look forward to seeing you there.

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