Shelley's Corner: A Series on Emotional Trauma, Addiction, and Healing
Dr. Shelley Uram is a Harvard trained, triple board-certified psychiatrist and a Distinguished Fellow of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry. As a Meadows' Senior Fellow, Dr. Uram conducts patient lectures and provides ongoing training and consultation to the treatment staff at The Meadows.
Welcome Back To Shelley's Corner
There’s something I’ve noticed at The Meadows over the years – many of you that have been inpatient or attended workshops have struggled with incongruence between your heart and your mind.
What do I mean by this?
Your mind is being “commanded” by thoughts, judgments, desires, cravings, and decisions based on “stinkin’ thinkin.’” This is the natural state of a mind operating by its own steam. Unfortunately, since most of the human brain has its function driven by survival and fear-based wiring, if you don’t empower your higher functioning brain to run the show, you end up unnecessarily suffering.
Now, the intelligence in your heart has little or nothing to do with ancient and raw survival wiring. The language of the heart is heavily influenced by your connection to your very essence, or Higher Power. Unfortunately, humans have a much more difficult time “hearing” this voice, as it speaks in a whisper when compared to the screech of the survival instincts.
Why does any of this matter?
If your heart and mind are not running in congruence with each other, your personal will has no idea which path to follow. Addiction is almost always a product of this.
Those of you who have attended 12-Step meetings may have noticed that until someone becomes clear that the 12-Steps is their path, they struggle with their personal will flopping back and forth between the shallow commands of the mind, versus their spiritual direction.
By the way, I am not meaning to say that the language of the heart is only to be found through 12-Steps; I use this only as an example. There are many paths leading to the heart ultimately directing the mind.
Until next week,
Shelley Uram, M.D.
© Shelley Uram 2014